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On Monday, the last day of April 2018, Issa Rae was trending on Twitter because of what she wrote about black women and Asian men in her book three years ago. Sometime late on Saturday night, Plan A’s Five Alive tweeted a passage from in which she wrote about interracial dating disparities hurting black women and Asian men in similar ways.She came to a tongue-in-cheek conclusion that black women and Asian men should therefore get together.
And it’s Asian men who get accused of trying to control Asian women and being resentful about their social status.
So watching the same fight in the black community is fascinating, because in terms of relative social positioning, black women are more like Asian men.
But because black women are women, they also use similar language and tactics as Asian women in framing the whole interracial dating disparity issue as feminism and women’s progress. I’ll never forget the fact that during the darker days of this whole argument within Asian America— when we didn’t have the data, studies, or even freedom to openly talk about the obvious gendered racism infecting our supposedly diverse 21st American social scene —black women were usually the outsiders who backed up Asian men online when the denialists and apologists gaslit us and talked down to us.
Yes, those women’s reactions were harsh and in a coldly objective way, it shouldn’t have mattered what kind of man Stephon Clark was if your main goal was to fight police violence against black people. Just think of how incredibly tormenting it is to be sexually denigrated by members of your own race that it could cause people to say “meh” to state-sanctioned racist murders of your own people.
Think about that before dismissing these issues as unimportant because they’re “just about dating.”Yet at the same time, I also feel for black men who get upset when they see white assimilationist liberalism inciting the same kind of gender wars in their community as I’ve seen among Asian Americans.